10 Reasons Why You’re Not Having Sex
Are you one of those couples that just don’t have sex anymore? If so, find comfort in the fact that you are not alone. Many couples, especially couples in long term relationships find themselves going months on end with hardly any intimacy. After questioning a few men and women in relationships about their sexual relationship, here are a few reasons why they believe their sex life fell apart:
“Sex became boring.”
I think a lot of couples get stuck in a rut, especially after having sex for a long time. Instead of being fun and enjoyable, sex becomes boring. Being intimate with your lover should not be a chore; it should be something you look forward to.
“Our bedroom was used for everything else but…”
Bringing laptops, TVs and mobile phones into your bedroom should be a big no-no in your relationship. Technology is a terrible distraction from both sleep and sex. Let’s face it, how do you initiate intimacy with someone glued to an online article or engrossed in a very useless episode of the Kardashians??
“I put on weight.”
Many women seem to withdraw from sex if they feel overweight. This is mainly due to the media broadcasting ridiculous standards of “sexy” body images. The message the media broadcasts is basically “if you look like this, you are sexy and your sex life will be great” – This, of course, is not true.
“Life became super busy.”
Finding time to have sex is important, but how do you do so if working, cooking, cleaning, exercising and taking care of your family leaves you diving onto your bed, exhausted every night? On top of that, you have stress messing around our hormones in a negative way.
“My partner distanced himself from me.”
When you lover begins to avoid sex with you, you may want to look into the reason why. It may be as a result of stress, lost attraction or unfaithfulness.
Change Your Sex Life Today
- Communicate what you like and dislike with your partner.
- Don’t allow technology into the bedroom.
- Compliment your partner on things you like about and things you enjoy with him/her.
- Start exercising with your partner. An exercise routine with your partner is a great way for both you to increase your confidence in the bedroom.
- Spice up your sex life with sex toys for couples.